October 23, 2012

a river runs through us: a birth story


4 days before birth day

remember that one day i slathered plaster all over my naked torso? 

well, i’m no expert but i think said action is a sure-fire way to kick labor into gear because mid-slathering, contractions started happening. at first, i thought, woah, i just felt a short period cramp. it was your standard period cramp, warm, twisty and achy. nbd. and then maybe 10 minutes later i felt another one and wondered if i was making it up in my head. did i want to get baby out so bad that i started imagining labor pains? are these even labor pains? you mean, i will actually go into labor at some point??

i sent a text to my co-pregnant pal asking at what point do i start timing these things. she said to just start and so i did. 

this was wednesday at 7pm. 

at this point, contractions/surges were all over the place. some were a minute long, some 2 minutes, some 30 seconds. they were 10 minutes apart, 7 minutes apart, 30 minutes apart. what does it feel like at this point? 

excitement. it feels like totally bearable excitement. 

i loved the feeling. warm, tingly crampage knocking at my cervical door, saying let me out, let me out. i sat on the couch, chatted with my mom about how it was feeling while hank was at his weekly hockey game.  i was getting increasingly excited for what would come. my mom went home and told me to call her when we were going to leave the house. hank came home and sent his boss an email saying he wouldn’t be in for work the next day. it was getting real, folks. 

when midnight came around that night, we decided to go to bed and just wait for the contractions to get stronger. i slept through the night almost completely. two or three times, i woke up from the pain, went to the bathroom and then fell back asleep. it was a calm scene. 

the next morning, my contractions started to become more consistent and from thursday morning on, they were never less than 10 minutes apart. and as the day went on, they grew in intensity and i thought, we should pack the hospital bag. ha! procrastinate much? 

so we packed the bag, i bounced around on an exercise ball, we watched ridiculousness and laughed through the pain. but i had a goal, whether it was time or not, to drive south to my sister’s house to be closer to the hospital and to miss rush hour traffic. (we live about 40 miles from the hospital since moving) so when 2:30pm rolled around, we left. by this time, it’s pretty intense and i expect to be a mommy by that evening. i sat in the passenger seat with a car seat in the back, hank’s hand on mine, and my requested john mayer playing loud from the stereo. i breathed through each “cramp” and sang songs during the in-between minutes. 

one thing to know about labor, contractions are almost delightful in the early stages because you know it will end soon. you know that in a minute or so you’ll feel completely normal again. you’ll breathe normally and carry on a conversation, close your eyes and rest. knowing that there is light after each contraction is heaven. sleepy, happy heaven. 

we park at my sister’s house and i slowwwwwly waddle through the pain to her front door. it’s getting worse. walking is difficult. laying down is NOT happening. sitting, sitting up is all i can do; it’s my preferred position. i totally thought i’d be able to lie down and rest or sprawl over the exercise ball but no, no, no. the pain is practically unbearable in those comfy positions. it’s upright or nothin’. so i keep changing my seat up. i’m on the couch, a chair, the ball, a different chair. i’m hot, i’m cold. it’s too loud, it’s not loud enough. i want my back rubbed, i don’t want to be touched. it was a lot of back and forth, searching for the thing that would help me through it.

it’s thursday at 10pm.

i decided things were brutal enough. contractions were consistently 4 minutes apart and i wasn’t waiting for 3 minute mark. i had to be close to ready because back labor had begun and silent tears were rolling down my face. we packed up and made our way over. 

we checked into the birthing center and found out that my midwife is on duty. hooray! they move me into one of the biggest rooms there, a second hooray!, and i change into the infamous hospital gown. my midwife comes in and hugs me. i’m so ready. i’ve been doing this for more than 24 hours at this point and can’t believe the moment is so close. 

she checks me and says:

ok, so you’re only about 4 centimeters dilated. it’s still pretty early but we’ll let you stay. get comfy, it could be a while. 

W.T.F.


to be continued...


24 comments:

  1. haha. I love the end of this post. You go girl! You are making it seem easy!

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  2. This is great! I love the way you describe the beginning stages of labor. You're so on point with your wording!

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  3. Ahhh!! The suspense!! Can't wait to hear the rest!!

    Aubri

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  4. So you have always reminded me of Kourtney Kardashian. Totally. Oww owww. But her birth story was my favorite because of how calm she was. I have never seen someone just take their time, relax, be so calm in real life. I hope you have seen this episode because I totally foresee you laying there all calm and quiet and then just pulling baby River out, like she did. lol. Im pretty sure Ill be the meanest, loudest, most stressed out person ever in labor.

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  5. ahh i love labour stories, im a midwife in oz and its so awesome to hear it all from your point of view, sounds like you had a really good relationship with your midwife, sooo important to have that :)
    and 4cm is the best time to come to hospital! xx

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  6. Oooohh you left me with a cliffhanger!! Like my sis said the other day, I love how real you are. Some peoples' labor stories seem so fake to me...but this seemed real. I can't wait to hear about when River decided to make his entrance!!

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  7. oh no, not a 'to be continued"!! ;) can't wait to read more, sounds like you were totally calm, a pro already! i will totally be one of those people who keeps going to the hospital and getting sent home, ha!

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  8. I can't wait to hear more! I hope I am as calm as you when I have a baby!

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  9. To be continued?! What the heck! Well, I'm glad I know the ending...

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  10. i cannot wait for the next post.

    and you didn't get turned away yey! that is one of my biggest fears, that they will send me home telling me to come back later.

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  11. that's what I hated the most, when you feel like it's time because they are so close together, yet dilation takes taking forever!!

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  12. I can't believe you pulled a "to be continued"!!!! I was on the edge of my anxious seat!

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  13. lol! I totally dont mean to laugh but I completely remember how brutal it was waiting to dilate. I stopped a 6 with both boys and they broke my water. Within 30 minutes of breaking my water it was push time!

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  14. I cannot wait to read the rest! I'm super into reading other's birthing stories right now (being 5 months pregnant with my first).

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  15. AWWW - POST THE REST!!!! I can't wait to read the rest of the story!! EEK!!

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  16. I must admit... I got the run down from Ali already because I was too impatient to wait for your post. :) All I have to say is that you are a CHAMP! Love you Vic and hope every day is getting easier. Those first few weeks are brutal but before you know it you'll have a toddler chasing you around and you'll long for the days when they were so tiny and cuddly. So proud of you Momma. XO

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  17. Oh currently on the edge of my seat.. you mean to tell me all that pain.. and "oh you still have a while?" cray cray!! I cant wait to read the rest

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  18. Can't wait to read more!!

    abrinkadventure.blogspot.com

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  19. ooooooh this takes me back to almost a year ago...I've gotta say, us women are pretty darn amazing!:-) xoxo

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  20. Eeeeeep, excitement! I love a good birth story. Following! I have to find out what happens next.

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  21. Vickvay! I can't wait to hear more! I know you are busy with your little man! Give him extra snuggles for me!

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  22. How long does a girl have to wait to get part 2?!

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