July 24, 2012

a little tuesday truth

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There are lessons I often want to impart on my female counterparts. I want so much for each and every one of you. I want so much for myself. And while it can be hard to follow one's own good advice, perhaps it's easier to follow the advice of others. Maybe we're all Alice.
I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it. And that explains the trouble that I'm always in. 
So today, I'm going to be the one to say...

...that standing up for yourself is always a good idea. Defending your feelings or your position to another does not make you a mean person. It does not make you a harsh person. It is you, being kind to yourself. It is you, being kind to those around you. People like knowing where they stand with others. When you stand up for yourself and are honest with those around you, relationships bloom and grow. edelweiss.

...don't ever be afraid to be yourself. Don't ever let someone make you feel like your opinion doesn't matter. Even if you both disagree in the end, or they change your mind, or you change their mind!, you are both being honest and kind to one another. No one wants a "yes" friend, they want a real friend.

...taking things personally is dangerous. People have their own lives, their own experiences and as a result, their own skewed points of view. We all do. It's not a bad thing, it just is. So when someone, anyone, says something to you, don't take it personally. Take it at face value and decide how you feel about it. Do you agree? Do you disagree? KNOW that they are not saying it to hurt you. They're just talkin', just sharin' their view and how you react to that is completely your choice. It's kinda liberating isn't it? This is not to say that they're always wrong but knowing that in the end, they're going to be OK with your decisions and opinions is pretty freaking sweet And if they're not, then that's OK too. Because it has nothing to do with you.

...you can only control your actions and reactions. stop hoping for others to change and instead, change how you react to others. you can't blame anyone for making you sad. you can only blame yourself. if someone has done something to make you feel bad, tell them. if they work to change it, great! if they don't, move on. you deserve better.

...be kind to other women. love your lady community. embrace, support and understand each other.


like anyone else, these are hard for me, especially as my current, emotional, hormonal self. but i try, try every day to remember these lessons and when i do, life is much easier. 

love, love, love.

xo

22 comments:

  1. all great points, love the advice about changing how you react. sometimes it's hard not to take things personally...but this is a good reminder :)

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  2. great advice!! very important to remind ourselves of these things!!
    Kristen

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  3. I love absolutely everything about this post. such important pieces of wisdom that we often forget in our day to day lives. kudos, m'lady!

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  4. great advice - especially for us girls!

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  5. Speak truth girl! This is all true. Many of us give great advice but can't follow it ourselves...therefore we need to hold each other accountable!

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  6. Great advice - I really like this. I know I'm guilty of trying to say what I think people want to hear so I don't hurt their feelings....but I'm trying to take notice of this and not do it.

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  7. Great advice. I am ultra-sensitive and I really need to learn to let things go, and not take everything so personally! It's hard to remember that in the moment.

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  8. Ha! I love how the source for the picture is "they all hate us"

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    1. yeah, i don't really know what that's all about but i love that site. maybe it's a "they all hate us" and we don't care thing - which is just perfect for this post, right? ;)

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  9. I like this. I like this a lot.

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  10. I loved this and it was a great post! Very true points that you have here!

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  11. Love this!! I am so quick to get competitive and be judgmental against other women. Good advice lady!

    val
    The Daily Distraction

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  12. What a great post! Loving the honesty here, I feel like this is something everyone can relate to!

    Definitely following, Ashton from:
    sexdrugsmarriage.blogspot.com

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  13. I paid far too much for therapy before we were friends. daaaaamn.
    I love you!

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  14. You da bomb. Thanks for sharing :) I will try my hardest to remember these and implement them. You're right though, edelwiess is the best song in the movie! Ha :) x

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  15. Ahem! All of these are golden, but I especially agree with the last one. I hate it when popular culture portrays/encourages this image of women being in competition with each other (largely over men)! So silly! Great advice :)

    Life Etc

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  16. I love this one girl!! I live by this: Treat others the way you would want to be treated. It's simple & sure makes life the same. <3 Girl Power! ;)

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  17. I love this post! Fantastic advice!

    "...be kind to other women. love your lady community. embrace, support and understand each other."

    This could not be more true! Thanks for sharing this!

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  18. these are all great advice and i could do with remembering them more especially not taking things personally especially with some people.

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  19. Great advice! I will be re-reading these a lot :)

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  20. Beautiful! Thanks for posting this- it seems that people get so offended about everything nowadays- especially online! I am bookmarking this to revisit as a reminder to myself.

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  21. yes, yes, yes...especially to the last one.

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