I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it. And that explains the trouble that I'm always in.So today, I'm going to be the one to say...
...that standing up for yourself is always a good idea. Defending your feelings or your position to another does not make you a mean person. It does not make you a harsh person. It is you, being kind to yourself. It is you, being kind to those around you. People like knowing where they stand with others. When you stand up for yourself and are honest with those around you, relationships bloom and grow. edelweiss.
...don't ever be afraid to be yourself. Don't ever let someone make you feel like your opinion doesn't matter. Even if you both disagree in the end, or they change your mind, or you change their mind!, you are both being honest and kind to one another. No one wants a "yes" friend, they want a real friend.
...taking things personally is dangerous. People have their own lives, their own experiences and as a result, their own skewed points of view. We all do. It's not a bad thing, it just is. So when someone, anyone, says something to you, don't take it personally. Take it at face value and decide how you feel about it. Do you agree? Do you disagree? KNOW that they are not saying it to hurt you. They're just talkin', just sharin' their view and how you react to that is completely your choice. It's kinda liberating isn't it? This is not to say that they're always wrong but knowing that in the end, they're going to be OK with your decisions and opinions is pretty freaking sweet And if they're not, then that's OK too. Because it has nothing to do with you.
...you can only control your actions and reactions. stop hoping for others to change and instead, change how you react to others. you can't blame anyone for making you sad. you can only blame yourself. if someone has done something to make you feel bad, tell them. if they work to change it, great! if they don't, move on. you deserve better.
...be kind to other women. love your lady community. embrace, support and understand each other.
like anyone else, these are hard for me, especially as my current, emotional, hormonal self. but i try, try every day to remember these lessons and when i do, life is much easier.
love, love, love.