Growing up in a time with no email, no internet, no cell phones can be hard to recall but I know I did it. I distinctly remember saying to a friend in high school 'what the hell is email?' And when I finally created one, the pressure of having to come up with a name I would use and give out to people was entirely too overwhelming. I still feel this way about commitment - hence the reason why we still rent a home. And after many hours of pondering what I would use, I finally came up with vbella22…seriously.
Because I speak another language and in that language I am so beautiful, you have no idea.
I've since come to my senses and have employed a very simple email handle of my actual name for years. Unfortunately it's now outdated because I got hitched and changed my name but I'm keeping it as is. I can't go through that decision process again.
Naming disasters aside, the email is one of my best friends. It helps me keep in touch with anyone and everyone - including, my IRL friends. The same friends who also did not have email addresses in high school or middle school or elementary school. But what happens when said friends don’t have email? Or GASP! a computer?
I say: that friendship suffers.
Of course, this statement assumes that your well connected friends actually read and reply to email - and I'd venture to say that most do. Is there anyone out there who does not list check email as their morning activities?
Employed at a desk or not, you can check at home, at work, on your phone, at an internet café…do these still exist? When you'd like to quickly update your friends with big news or send out a question or a photo of the outfit you're wearing for approval or just to rant without taking an actual break from work and calling them, the email is perfection. And the friend that does not email does not get to hear these things; they don't know about yesterday when you lost your dog during your morning walk, was late to work and then missed lunch because you forgot about the project that was due that afternoon. And sometimes it's these small life things that build stronger relationships. It's daily life that brings us closer together.
My last caveman inspired friend with no computer access has just ended the madness. She now has a computer and even, email. It just happened and since then, she's emailed me 3 times a day. Each email looks like a letter, complete with salutations and full sentences. While I can't wait until she gets on board with the rest of us text happy maniacs, cutting sentences down, using wild exclamations and brief if non-existent greetings, I'm glad we can keep in touch more often.
Poof! We're close again and I officially know her schedule for the next month.
Wait...did I say technology improves or worsens friendships...